We all know Self-Discipline is one of the most important indicators of success. But many people don’t know the secrets to build self-discipline. Do you want to learn how to master self-control and maintain habits that lead to success and a great future? This article will help you to learn simple self-improvement tips that are 4 key secrets to build self-discipline. Marisa Peer, an English best-selling author, nutritionist, relationship therapist, hypnotherapist trainer and motivational speaker explaining these secrets in her talk.
What are the secrets to build self-discipline?
To know yourself is the secret to self-discipline. Knowing about what do you care about most and what do you not care about at all. If you know about your habits, your personal secrets and do the necessary self-improvements, you can build self-discipline. Others can’t build your self-discipline, but you have to build it yourself.
Why Self-discipline is the best discipline?
Self-discipline is one of the important requirements for achieving your goals. Self-discipline gives you the power to stick to your decisions and follow them through, without changing your mind. This ability of self-discipline leads to self-confidence, self-esteem and a strong mind which leads to happiness and satisfaction. If you don’t have self-discipline, you can’t expect discipline from others also.
Why is self discipline so difficult?
It’s basically because of a lack of motivation. People feel that whipping themselves into doing something is the proper way of disciplining oneself when that approach is counterproductive. The task of creating self–discipline begins with working with the imagination to create a positive, motivating picture. Once you realise the benefits of self-discipline, you will surely help others to learn the secrets to build self-discipline.
The difference between success and failure is often nothing more than this, people who have success, also have self-discipline. I found a video of Marisa Peer explaining how to adopt the habits of self-discipline and when you adopt them and make them your own, success will follow. She says she meets people all the time that really struggle with self-discipline, because they have this interesting belief it’s something you’re born with, and that’s not true. No baby is born with discipline, in fact, they find it very hard to do that. Discipline is something you acquire. It’s like a muscle if you work it, it gets better.
Here are the 4 key secrets to build self-discipline
1. Do what you don’t want to do first
There are some actually keys that very, very disciplined people have. And here is the most important one, and this would change your life if you do it, and I had to make myself do this, it was not natural at all. You must do what you don’t want to do first. People who are hugely successful do this, they do the thing they hate first of all. What do we not want to do, what’s the worst job, let’s do that first and get it out of the way.
So that is secret one to having incredible self-discipline. Tell yourself, make yourself do what you don’t want to do first. And of course, in the beginning, this will be what you do, but you know what will happen? It starts to become who you are. It becomes easy, it becomes seamless, it’s a bit like putting lenses in your eye, it feels seriously odd to suddenly jam your finger in your eye, but if you do it every day, comes easy. Because that’s how habits are formed, you make a habit, and then your habits make you, so make your habits amazing. So you’ve got a habit one.
2. Take action every single day in the direction of your goals
Take action every single day in the direction of your set goals, and that doesn’t mean work for 10 hours a day. But even on a Saturday or a Sunday, if you’re building your business then five minutes answering one email, making one call, because that’s what winners do, they don’t have a day off when they are on their way to success. They take action every single day in the direction of their goals.
3. Delay gratification, delay the reward
And here’s point three, and it possibly is the most important point of all, delay gratification, delay the reward. Without praise, your praise muscle never really grows. What happens when you work for yourself, is halfway through, you stop and you do something. You have to now do what we naturally do as parents, we say, “When you finish your homework, “you can go out to play.” At school you have work, and then playtime, a parent will say tidy up your room, and then you might have ice cream. So we are naturally wired to take the reward after the work, but what’s happened is we now give ourselves the reward before the work and then we don’t feel any inspiration to do the work.
4. Praise yourself the way you want someone else to praise you
Remember to praise yourself, because these four things combined will give you phenomenal, incredible self-discipline. And self-discipline will change your life. You know what’s also amazing when you adopt and embrace and pick up those four habits. At the end of every day, you’ll have this great feeling, I earned this, I deserve this, I’m worth it. So many of us walk around with it differently, I’m not worth it, I winged that, I don’t really deserve that, I don’t deserve the praise, I don’t deserve the recognition.
First, it’s what you do and then it becomes who you are. When it becomes who you are, your life will be amazing, so make your life amazing now, make those habits your own.
- Do what you don’t want to do, what you dislike, and do it first.
- Take action every single day on your way to success, in the direction of your goals.
- Delay gratification, reward yourself after the event, after the task, and never before.
- Massively praise yourself, big-up yourself, build your praise muscle, praise yourself the way you want someone else to praise you.
These are four life-changing habits of self-discipline
The 4 key secrets to build self-discipline – Marisa Peer
About Marisa Peer
Marisa Peer is the author of ‘I Am Enough‘ and creator of Rapid Transformational Therapy™ (RTT). Marisa Peer is an English best-selling author, nutritionist, relationship therapist, hypnotherapist trainer and motivational speaker. She is using hypnosis for anxiety, weight loss, addiction and overcoming fear. She has spent 25 years working with people including royalty, rock stars, actors, professional and Olympic athletes, CEOs and media personalities and has developed her own style that is frequently referred to as “life-changing.”
Marisa Peer is the author of:
- I Am Enough
- You Can Be Thin
- Ultimate Confidence
- Trying to Get Pregnant
- You Can Be Younger
Marisa Peer’s specialist subjects include:
- Infertility (pregnancy)
- Fears/ phobias
- Stage fright
- Low self-esteem
- Confidence/ self-esteem
- Weight loss
- Childhood problems
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If you adopt these 4 key secrets to build self-discipline, it will change your life. Do what you don’t want to do first. Take action every day in the direction of your goals, no matter how small the action is. The smallness doesn’t matter, what matters is you are wiring your mind, coding your mind, firing into your mind the habits of natural winners, and then you’ll be a winner.
If you already do any of those things mentioned above, comment on which ones you do.
Which ones are going to most excite you, or even challenge you?
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I am Mathukutty P. V., a proud Indian, Blogger, YouTuber. I started Simply Life Tips, made in India with love, to share useful things with the world. I believe, 'Sharing is Caring! Learning never ends!'.