How Overparenting Damage The Future Of Children?

Effects Of Overparenting
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(Last Updated On: September 22, 2019)

Do you know what is overparenting and how it affects the future of your children? You may say you are not overparenting, but doing your duty as a parent only. Every parent say the same thing only. Continue reading to find whether you are overparenting or not.

What Is Overparenting?

Over means something beyond required, so overparenting is parenting more than needed or required for a child, considering age, stage of life, specific personality traits.

Some parents keep restrictions on children on everything. It is true that support and valuable advice of parents at a certain level helps children to boost self-confidence. This also helps to build a closer bond between parent and child, and become successful in life

But some parents go beyond the limit, load their kids with high expectations and micromanage their lives on every point. They think by doing these, they are helping the kids to become successful in life. They do not know overparenting do not help but damage the future of the children.

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As a parent how do you realise when you cross the line and start overparenting, and over-controlling your child’s life?

Are You Overparenting?

This is a checklist to find whether you are overparenting or not.

  • Do homework for the child.
  • Feel sad and criticise the child for bad grades and failures.
  • Argue with the teacher about grades.
  • Anxiety and depression over little things concerned to children.
  • Often try to prevent the child from making mistakes.
  • Do not let the child make his own choices.
  • Worry about many normal issues other parents don’t worry about.
  • Do not identify age-appropriate expectations.
  • Praise your child profusely.
  • Offer too many rewards.
  • Do not give your child responsibilities.

Overparenting – Common problems kids may face

  • Lack of knowledge about personal strengths and weakness.
  • Poor levels of decision making, planning and organising.
  • Fear from taking risks in life and failures.
  • Low motivation levels to take responsibilities.
  • Lack of self-advocacy skills.
  • Prone to anxiety and depression.
Overparenting problems
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Common Problems Kids May Face Due To Overparenting

Parenting is not giving your child everything they want. Parenting is not being your child’s friend. Parenting is about preparing your child to be a useful and respectful person in society.


How to raise successful kids without over-parenting?

Julie Lythcott-Haims

Do you know how to raise a successful kid without overparenting? Make sure your kids understand that life isn’t about high grades, status or financial stability. Help them grow up compassionate, happy and making others happy.

“Words like “perfect,” “brilliant,” “amazing,” “wonderful,” and “great” sound like compliments when they trip off our tongues, but over time they are daggers in the soul of a developing kid and end up undercutting resilience.

Julie Lythcott-Haims, How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success
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Our kids need us to be a little less obsessed with grades and scores and a whole lot more interested in childhood providing a foundation for their success built on things like love and chores.

Julie Lythcott-Haims

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Not only does overparenting hurt our children; it harms us, too. Parents today are scared, not to mention exhausted, anxious, and depressed.

Julie Lythcott-Haims How to Raise an Adult:
Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

The best thing parents can do for their kids is to educate, support, and empower to make the best decisions for themselves. As a parent, realise and acknowledge your own failures and don’t live through your child.

Overparenting and unnecessary controlling lead children finding lesser opportunities to become self-confident to take decisions and face challenges on their own.

It is not what you do for your children, but what you teach them to become self-confident and good human beings will decide their life success. Click To Tweet


Technology changing human life day by day, but a child’s need for parents’ time, attention, love and trust remains the same. Good parenting makes childhood an eventful and happy preparation for a successful life, but overparenting makes it harmful for the future of the child.

  • Are you overparenting your children?
  • What do you think about overparenting?
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