What is shyness?
Do you feel shy when meeting strangers or attending meetings? Are you looking for ways to overcome shyness?
Some people struggle with shyness. Many people find it hard to overcome shyness. It can take effort to overcome this problem.
Shyness is being uncomfortable with one’s self especially in social situations. Shyness is a fear of rejection, a state of the mind.
If you are a shy person, don’t feel bad about this because you are not alone, but there are many others like you who are shy. Remember that every problem has a solution. Some people think shy and introvert is same. Both are different.Boost self-confidence and overcome shyness from hindering you toward becoming the whole individual you were meant to be. Click To Tweet
- Self-Obsession – You obsess about everything you are or you’re not.
- Poor self-image – Always tend to see in a negative light. This exacerbates the problem of shyness.
- Magnifying negatives – Paying too much attention to your negative traits or the wrong things done. Refusing to look at or conveniently overlook the good qualities in you.
- Feeling hesitant to speak up or as if you have nothing to do.
- Worrying intensely about what other people think of you.
- Feeling embarrassment, anxiety, guilt or shame during or after social interactions.
- Avoid or not actively participating in meetings or other group situations.
- Physical symptoms such as shaking, sweating, nausea, blushing, rapid heartbeat, or a shaky voice.
Easy Steps To Overcome Shyness
Never say you are shy
Do not think or say to yourself or others you are shy to do something. If you think or say you are shy, that will fix in your mind and your confidence level will come down.
The universe wanted you to be this way. So stop resisting, accept yourself. Be proud of who you are and show people you are self-confident. Self-Confidence is the first step to overcome shyness.
State the problem
Find out the root cause of shyness you battle with. After identifying the root cause, you can take necessary action in the right direction to overcome shyness.
Fear of rejection is one of the main cause of Shyness. People reject politicians, sportsmen, movies. If they fear that rejection by the public, how can they win again? They embrace the rejections and continue their hard work and achieve success. People are with different personalities, different opinions. Don’t stop your efforts to overcome your shy nature just because you face rejection from a few people
Find out your unique strengths
Everyone has unique strengths. It can be a physical attribute, a talent you possess, or a behavioural characteristic. Identifying your unique strength will boost your self-confidence. That will help to reduce your shyness. Always try to use your unique strength to your advantage.
Find your front row
Identify people who love and support you and are always there for you. Meet them often and work on becoming more open with them. Push yourself out of your comfort zone with these people in your safe zone. Over time you will gain and boost your confidence and will open to outsiders. Good friends and loving family can help you overcome shyness.
Get out of your shell and focus outward
As a shy person, you may feel safe and comfortable living in your shell. But get yourself out of your shell slowly and steadily. Attend public gatherings, parties, groups, meetings and interact with people. Try to learn about others and find out what they like. Over time you will form a habit of talking more. That is very important to improve your social interaction. You won’t berate yourself because the focus is not on you anymore.
Do not compare yourself to others
Comparing you with others is a big problem. Do not compare yourself to others to where you are too insecure to act like yourself. Everyone has a different past, different confidence level. Do the things you love, keep yourself happy, and above all respect yourself.
Perfect your posture
Posture speaks a lot about a person. If you slouch or show timid body language, no one will take you seriously. Stand tall, straighten your spine, have a good eye contact with the other person while talking to him. This will make you appear confident and over time you start feeling confident too.
Words are very powerful and carry an incredible energy. Remember that thoughts and words repeatedly using gets heard by the subconscious mind and body act accordingly. Don’t feed your mind with negative thoughts. Stop dwelling on negative thoughts. Always think positive. Repeatedly say yourself that you’re good, kind and intelligent. That will make your mind strong.
Do not leave an uncomfortable situation
This is probably the most aggressive way of dealing with shyness. Usually, when you feel shy, you do not enter the place or simply ran away from that situation. You may face rejection or some discomfort while trying to overcome shyness. Don’t lose hope and most importantly don’t give up. Stay in the same place and situation and that will remove your fear or anxiety which accompanies shyness.
If you are shy to do something, appear in front of people or speak in a meeting, keep trying and keep making effort. You will get there. Once you actually do that, your fear and shyness will slowly come down. You will realise that if you try, you can do it. That will increase your confidence.
How To Overcome Shyness – Animated Video
Watch the video by The School of Life explaining how to overcome shyness.
3 Tips To Overcome Shyness In 8 Minutes
This is a very nice video in simple language. Watch this and listen to the simple tips.
The secret to overcoming shyness is to remember that others are, beneath the differences, always substantially the same as we are. Click To Tweet
Make a list of things you will do to overcome shyness and stick to it. Do everything on that list and you will start feeling more confident. Start with a task that makes you feel the least nervous and slowly works up to the task that makes you feel most nervous. Do them at your own pace but make sure to push those boundaries. This activity will build your self-confidence and help to overcome shyness.
Do you know someone who is shy? Do you help them to overcome shyness?
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